Positive Discipline(Chinese edition)《正面管教》修订版
编辑推荐
1、 畅销美国400多万册,被翻译成16种语言畅销全球;
2、 让数百万孩子、父母和老师受益终身的经典之作;
3、 自1981年本书*版出版以来,《正面管教》已经成为管教孩子的“黄金准则”
4、 简·尼尔森——教育学博士、杰出的心理学家——在本书中告诉21世纪的父母和老师们:
惩罚和娇纵为什么对孩子都不好,并且不管用?
怎样用既不惩罚又不娇纵的正面管教方法培养孩子受益终生的良好品质?
如何用正面管教方法自动消除孩子的不良行为?
如何赢得孩子与父母和老师的合作?
如何消解大人与孩子之间的权力之争?
“超级父母”对孩子会有什么危害?
各种性格的父母对孩子会有什么正反两方面的影响?父母如何发挥自己性格中的优点,避免缺点给孩子造成的不良影响?
老师们如何避免对孩子造成管教问题?
从3岁到青春期的十几岁的孩子以及孩子的父母和老师,都将因为本书而彻底改变家里和学校的气愤,改变自己的人生。
内容简介
没有哪个父母不为了孩子而竭尽全力,但*美好的愿望却不一定给孩子带来*好的结果。
自1981年本书*版初版以来,《正面管教》已经成为了管教孩子的“黄金准则”,本书被翻译成16中语言,在美国销量超过400万册,在美国之外的国家销量超过200万册。自1987年*次修订之后,每10年修订一次,本书根据英文原版的第三次修订版(2006年出版)翻译,该版首印数为70多万册。
正面管教是一种既不惩罚也不娇纵的管教孩子的方法……孩子只有在一种和善而坚定的气氛中,才能培养出自律、责任感、合作以及自己解决问题的能力,才能学会使他们受益终身的社会技能和生活技能,才能取得良好的学业成绩……如何运用正面管教方法使孩子获得这种能力,就是本书的主要内容。
目 录
译者的话:我为什么要翻译这本书
序言及致谢
引言
第1章正面的方法
正面管教是一种既不用严厉也不娇纵的方法……它以相互尊重与合作为基础,把和善与坚定融为一体,以此为基石,在孩子自我控制的基础上,培养孩子的各项技能……
当心!是什么在起作用!/ 10
如果既不严厉也不娇纵,那该怎么办?/ 12
和善与坚定并行/ 13
相反相吸:当一个家长和善,而另一个坚定时/ 18
帮助孩子体验到归属感和自我价值感(心灵纽带)/ 18
是否长期有效?/ 19
教给孩子具备良好品格所需要的有价值的社会和生活技能/ 19
正面管教之旅/ 20
序言及致谢
引言
第1章正面的方法
正面管教是一种既不用严厉也不娇纵的方法……它以相互尊重与合作为基础,把和善与坚定融为一体,以此为基石,在孩子自我控制的基础上,培养孩子的各项技能……
当心!是什么在起作用!/ 10
如果既不严厉也不娇纵,那该怎么办?/ 12
和善与坚定并行/ 13
相反相吸:当一个家长和善,而另一个坚定时/ 18
帮助孩子体验到归属感和自我价值感(心灵纽带)/ 18
是否长期有效?/ 19
教给孩子具备良好品格所需要的有价值的社会和生活技能/ 19
正面管教之旅/ 20
For twenty-five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown-ups working with children. Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition. The key to positive discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect. Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child–from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager–can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity. Inside you’ll discover how to
• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths, not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior
“It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you.”
–Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!
Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action. Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice.
• bridge communication gaps
• defuse power struggles
• avoid the dangers of praise
• enforce your message of love
• build on strengths, not weaknesses
• hold children accountable with their self-respect intact
• teach children not what to think but how to think
• win cooperation at home and at school
• meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior
“It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition. Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm. If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you.”
–Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too!
Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of positive discipline in action. Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well-adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice.